I recently watched a powerful video by Rick Foster and Greg Hicks, the authors of How We Choose to Be Happy and featured
presenters in one of the highly-recommended Awakening Joy programs.
Foster and Hicks discuss many aspects of setting intentions, especially how we can use them to create what we want in our lives. The basis of their book was a series of interviews they conducted with happy people from all around the world. In their research, they found a set of nine common happiness principles, which have held true in their ongoing work as leadership consultants.
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Most importantly, these authors highlight the power of setting your intentions first, before setting your specific goals.
You might be saying, “I DO set intentions. I’m going to lose 10 pounds by Christmas and want a new job before New Year’s. How’s that?”
Well, those are great goals, and they are not intentions. According to Foster and Hicks, an intention is your attitude, your behavior, your desire to be or do something. It’s what fuels your actions, attitudes, and behavior. It’s literally your way of being, and is an active, rather than a passive, choice. Instead of losing 10 pounds by Christmas, your intention could be to express more health and comfort in your body.
“Each decision we make, each action we take, is born out of an intention.” ~Sharon Salzberg
Unfortunately, most of us have created such deep grooves in our brains over time, that our behaviors are mostly automatic. We operate as “toasters” – reacting with an
automatic response when someone says or does something that we don’t like. Over time, we start to believe that this automatic way of being is “just how we are” and that there’s no possibility for changing.
What’s your “toaster” way of reacting?
Guess what? There’s hope!
Below are three tips from Foster and Hicks’ book to support you in being more intentional and happier in your daily life:
Tip #1: Set a Moment-to-Moment Intention. Foster and Hicks suggest various ways of stopping the automatic patterns and choosing again. For example, you might set a “moment to moment” intention by asking yourself “What’s my best intention in this situation?” This takes only a few seconds. Coupled with a few deep breaths, it’s a powerful way to reprogram your mind and become more intentional.
Question: What moment-to-moment intention works best for you?
Tip #2: Set a Daily Intention. Most of the happy people whom the authors interviewed have a morning ritual of intention-setting to start their day. By doing so, you are proactively putting your attention and intention on creating something positive. Then, when something challenging arises, you are much more able to respond, rather than react to it.
Exercise: What would be possible if you started each day with a powerful intention? Tomorrow morning, try it out. It could be as simple as “I intend to help,” as the authors suggest.
Tip #3: Set Core Intentions for Your Life. These intentions do not fluctuate over time and speak to how you want to show up in life for yourself and others. Core intentions are broad and are guides for living. For example, I’ve set the intention to be a compassionate, authentic person who listens deeply to others. I have also set the lifelong intention to express greater delight and joy in my life. When I start my morning with these intentions and remind myself of them throughout the day, I tend to have much more connection, joy, and delight. Imagine that!
Question: What core intentions have you set for your life? What other ones might you set?
Happy Intentional Passioneering!
I’m Sue Zeal Oliver, the Passions & Possibilities coach who supports individuals and groups to vibrantly and prosperously pay it forward to people and the planet, as Passioneers®. I’m on a mission to prove that when you do what you love AND give back, the rest DOES follow. For more information about Passioneer coaching, consulting, and marketing services OR if you’d like to connect with the wisdom of over 350 Passioneers around the globe, check out www.powerleaps.com. Happy Passioneering!












During this year, we have interviewed over 200 bold, talented individuals who have leaped fully into what they love, as they serve others in the world – we call them Passioneers ™. Our intention is to inspire those who are feeling scared or discouraged about their own leap into service. Based upon our inteviews so far, we have synthesized the following passioneering tips, and will be blogging on them, and many others, each week in 2010. If you have any tips or know of any Passioneers who would like to share their story in our blog, please send us their contact information.
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